Even the changing of a relationship with an other is a form of closure. No matter how long, or short that relationship was, or how shallow or deep it was. The need for the ending of the prior relating, with the burgeoning new beginning in the new relating with that other, is still a necessary component of that intertwining of lives.

Is this to say that closure and letting go is easy? Well, sometimes yes, and sometimes no.

I surmise for most people that closure is extremely hard to do in many instances. That's why there are so many books on the market about letting go of the past and letting go in general. I'm no exception to this group seeking advice in this area, at times.

Closure can be sometimes hard to do.

Why? Well, I think for most that the human mind just doesn't want to let go of the good feelings and the secure and comfortable aspects of the memories that are now sheltered away in the mind and are not desired to be lost or forgotten about.

Someone dies. Is it easy to get closure after an occurrence like that? No. Of course not. But it does take time, perhaps many years, but closure does come. Time heals all wounds.

But regardless of how the ending of the prior Life event occurs, there is an aspect of closure to, say, a relationship experience like a marriage, that is so wonderful and blissful regardless of the potentially painful processing of the ending of that relationship.

And what would that aspect be? To me, it's the sense of what is to become of this type of ending.

The ending was necessary. The finality of it was inevitable, as life usually shows us in not-so-neat ways.

But, with the closure there is always, always one thing present that we usually don't find ourselves thinking about or focusing on throughout the usual painful aspect of letting go.

And what would that be?

Well, leave it up to Life to give us a new beginning to start out with. A clean page of Life to add to our memoirs. A blank slate. Whatever term is most appropriate, Life offers it to us and makes sure that we know that it is there in front of us.

But, what some do, perhaps many, is that they refuse to see the ending that just crossed their Life path as not an opportunity to try a new path, but rather the need to hang onto the familiar, and perhaps even the unhealthy.

It is at times like this that one should personally impress upon themselves that although the ending is painful for them, painful enough to not have them let go of it easily, this does not mean that it can't be done and that they can't start anew.

Right now.

Life moves forward, no matter how much we resist. We're like little pull toys our kids sometimes want us to buy for them in toy stores. The toy is pulled along where the child goes by way of the one end of the string that is attached to it and the other end that is also held onto tightly by the child.

When closure is necessary, Life is telling us that it is time for us to realize that it is working very hard to pull us through this experience so that we can begin to see anew and see the vast new horizons in front of us to enjoy and bask in the beauty of.

Life is ever so wonderful in that regard.

First, it brings us through the sometimes painful experience that pushes us towards accepting an inevitable end. And then, it pulls us towards an impossibly beautiful new beginning that we have no idea how it is going to turn out never mind where we are going to be led through Life with this new chapter we're being pulled and guided into.

Life.

Allow closure to occur. Stop resisting Life and closure just happens. And beyond that one can easily see that Life has so much to offer us, things it can't even begin to describe to us, but it sure can show us.

If only we're willing to be pulled forward, no matter how scared we may be of the unknown and heretofore unpainted horizon in front of us and all around us.

When you're presented with a Life event proffering an opportunity for closure do your best to accept this event at the very simplest level, perhaps just with blind faith and trust. Why? Simple...

...Because once gotten through, Life is sure to offer you a new beginning that is indescribable, unimaginable, unbeatable, and above all...unexpected.

And, oh, won't THAT be the wonder of wonders to go through. Eh?

Written by Andre Best
President, Ultimate Results, Inc.
http://www.andrebest.com
'Learn About Life From Another Perspective'

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