And it's a rut. The daily grind that we're all stuck in. Existence.

But right now I find myself wondering, thinking, what are Ma and Dad doing now? It's about 9:00 a.m. their time and they may just be getting up and starting their day.

But their day is not about 'doing'. It's not about accomplishing anymore.

It's just about existing. Being. Living. It's not about achieving some outcome anymore. That's past, along with all the junk we younger people live our lives for.

To achieve. To get to that nirvana. Retirement. Where we can 'relax' and let it all be whatever it is.

That's what Ma and Dad are doing now. They no longer have to worry about achieving. They just are 'doing' now. They're living. Together.

Ma and Dad just exist.

They spend their days doing what they enjoy.

They're no longer seeking. Searching. Hoping to find 'it'.

That magic key to the kingdom of answers.

They don't live with a purpose anymore. The day is what it is. Whatever that particular day is, they live it.

If it's a day in front of the T.V., then so be it.

If it's a day where the shopping mall is the destination, then so be it.

If it's a day to go to the bakery and get pretzels, then so be it.

It's not about 'doing' anymore. It's just about enjoying each other in existence.

It's just about being whatever they want to be each day. It's not about making each day 'mean' something special and significant.

Ma and Dad just exist to live now. They don't 'do' anymore. They just live and exist.

That's why it's so appealing to me right now as I leave their household. I lived it too. I just lived each day and allowed it to be whatever it wanted to be. I went along with Ma and Dad and whatever they were doing.

I recall that I felt more stressed when I had to go shopping for presents for the boys to bring home with me.

I was thinking thoughts like 'What would I get them? Is this the right gift? Will they like it? Where can I find them what they want?'

The stress began. Again.

But each day sitting around with Ma and Dad and talking, just talking, was about as stress-free as one could get.

That's what I'm looking for. I'm right now trying to put too much meaning into my life. I'm trying to make each and every moment mean too much.

I'm trying to make each day meaningful in a special way, an 'accomplishing' way.

That creates stress. I don't just live each day.

I think each day has to go the way *I* want it to. That's not right.

I'm too goal oriented. I have to 'make something of my self'. That's where the stress begins.

I miss the comfort and relaxation with Ma and Dad. I miss the easy lifestyle I had with them. My mind was resting.

No 'business'.

No computers.

No work.

No kid responsibilities.

No bills and obligations.

That is what vacation is all about. But I also saw that Ma and Dad were living a life of vacation.

To them their lives are enjoyable. To them their life is what it is and that's okay with them.

To others their lifestyle may be completely boring and unacceptable, but to Ma and Dad their lifestyle is more then adequate and appropriate.

And isn't that all that matters - that THEY are the ones who enjoy THEIR days?

If only I can find a similar level of happiness without activity too.

Now that'd be cool.

Written by Andre Best
President, Ultimate Results, Inc.
http://www.andrebest.com - Learn About Life From Another Perspective

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