The annoyance that two of the boys felt was something that was going on inside of them. And the fact of the matter was that they were making a mostly unconscious choice to let this event occuring outside of them bother them. Now, let's bring this home to each of us, as readers of this article.

You see, the boys were doing what pretty much every human being does from time to time. That is, they were allowing something outside of them to affect what was going on inside of them. And this is something that we all know all too well at times.

But, where we usually go awry, so to speak, is when we attribute how we feel inside to what is happening outside of us. That is we make something, someone, or some situation outside of us responsible for how we feel inside.

Now, I know that you are probably thinking that there is nothing wrong with that. But, let's re-question this and see if there is another way to go about dealing with matters happening outside of us.

You see, when we expect some-one or some-thing or some event outside of us to not be occurring, just the way it already is, we are giving away our ability to truly control the situation in the only way we're actually able to do so. And what is that way? We have a choice as to whether our perception of that behavior or situation changes from annoyance, to acceptance.

How does one do this? Easy. We decide to change how we react to the situation. We decide to reclaim our power and change the only thing that we truly have the power to change. Again, that would be our power to change our reaction to the event.

But, however simple this sounds, it isn't. You see, once again, we're all programmed to blame and hold to the proverbial feet of the situation to the fire that burns inside of us. That is what we've been shown throughout our life to be what works.

How many of us at one time or another, myself included, have yelled or shouted at that other person to 'stop that annoying behavior'?

"Stop it now!"

"Don't you see how annoying that is?"

"You're annoying me."

"You're so annoying."

"Stop annoying me."

"Dad/Mom, please make him/her/it stop!"

But, what happens when it doesn't stop?

We get mad.

We yell louder.

We rage.

We demand.

We threaten.

And worse. Sometimes we hit, and abuse in other physical ways.

We've all heard any version of most of the above statements. Or we've heard, most if not all, of these words coming from our own mouths at some time in the perhaps not too distant past.

Again, when we understand that we have the ability to not be annoyed by what is happening outside of us, then we can choose to have a different experience with that heretofore annoying situation.

So, how is this done?

Well, simply by staying aware of what is going on inside when the voices begin to pound on the inside of our skull. You know the ones. The voices that want one to yell out to have the event outside of one to stop.

We all know that yelling and threatening for the most part doesn't create effective change in the situation. Usually the other person will simply continue with their behavior. Why? Because they probably don't see it as annoying, but you do.

You see, there are other people who wouldn't be reacting to the event like you are. That is clear enough proof that the situation is not the problem: your reaction to the event is what is creating the problem for you.

So, you're not really asking the other person to stop behavior that everyone would necessarily agree is annoying, since it's a definition that for right now only exists inside of you. It's your definition of annoyance. So it's up to you to deal with the annoyance that you feel inside.

And, again, the way to do this is to become as aware as you can of what is happening inside of your head. The voices, the feelings, the energy. All of it.

And, what do you do with it? Pretty much nothing. Observe what goes on inside of you. Watch it. Notice what it wants you to do as the annoying event transpires outside of you.

And, do you know what will eventually happen? The action that that other person was doing most likely will stop in due time, and you'll be left with golden nuggets of insights into what inside you was causing you to react the way you do.

And, do this enough times and one day, yes, one day you will not find yourself reacting the way you do right now. You'll no longer see the action of that other person as annoying. They can go on doing what it is that they've done before, and it's a no-skin-off-my-nose situation to you. You no longer react the way you did.

The anger, the energy, the feelings that want to have you undertake a knee-jerk reaction are no longer present.

And what does this do inside of you? Well, for starters, it reduces your stress level. It brings you to a place of peace, over time. It allows you to see things inside of you that make you a more whole human being. It enables you to know that the world outside of you happens as it happens and there isn't anything you can do about it, and that's okay with you.

The rewards go on and on, but you get the picture.

You see, one day you'll find someone near you exhibiting a behavior that others find annoying, and heretofore you would've as well, but now you'll be in a space where you won't be pulled into a place of reaction to the event like those others.

And that will be a world of peace and understanding that annoyance is something that is a matter of reaction, or non-reaction in your case. And it's also a way that clouds the true beauty of the world around us, even in spite of those around us who 'won't listen' to us and 'stop that annoying behavior'.

So, I would suggest, that if this article pertains to you, that you might want to see just how clear and beautiful your world gets through diligent effort with what was shared here. And, to help you along, think how wonderful you'll feel once there is no one, no thing, no situation that annoys.

It truly will be a great experience, to experience. Trust me.

And, lastly, if this article annoyed you - you know where you might want to start working on changing what is happening inside of you. Start by seeing that annoyance is not good, it's bad for you.

Annoyed with this article? If so, watch it closely and learn.

Written by Andre Best
President, Ultimate Results, Inc.
http://www.andrebest.com
'Learn About Life From Another Perspective'

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