How have we all lived our lives to-date? We blame the other for how we feel, right? We hold their feet to the proverbial fire when WE are feeling something that is unpleasant or something that is considered as dark or negative energy inside of US. We say to ourselves, if only silently:

"They did that."

"They didn't do that."

"They make me feel that way."

"They did that to me."

"They made me do it."

Said differently, we don't take responsibility for what we feel inside and what we subsequently do with those internal feelings.

And that's where and when things begin to go awry within each of us who are still under this emotional blaming type of conditioning that we were raised with and had inculcated into us from birth.

You see, when someone does something that irks you or 'gets you angry', it's not what they do or did that caused this inside of you. It's not their fault, in other words.

Even if they did: cut you off in traffic on the local roadway; or cut in front of you in line at the local superstore; or not know what you wanted; or not know what you were feeling or expecting from them; or intentionally do that action to hurt you; or even accidentally forgot to pay attention to what they were saying when they mispoke those words to you.

There are thousands of examples each of us go through each day, outside of us, that fit in this category of externality. But, no matter what the specific external event involved, it all boils down to one main point vital to understanding this whole matter.

That is...

YOU are feeling what you're feeling.

YOU are going through the negative feelings that you're going through.

YOU have this morass of blackness being stirred up inside of you.

It's all in YOU.

It's NOT outside in them. Or that situation. Or that external cause.

It's in YOU.

You're the one who's vibrating with the energies that you are attempting to place outside of you, but can't get to stick with the other.

You are the one who is having all of this occur inside of you and yet you are doing your best to place the reason, the blame, for these energies and feelings that are occurring inside of you, on something or someone outside of you.

Well, this is where I get tough when I bluntly say...

"Grow up. Take responsibility for what YOU are feeling."

YOU are feeling what you are feeling.

You are feeling what you are feeling inside simply because there is a nature inside of you that has previously felt that feeling, those energies before (and they aren't comfortable energies either) and you are once again being triggered into feeling those feelings in the now.

So, what is the result of this internal event going on inside of each of us (yes, the writer too)? The result is that we do whatever we can to play a game of emotional 'tag' with someone outside of us.

"Tag, you're it. YOU'RE responsible for my feelings now. YOU'RE the one to blame for how I feel."

"I tagged you. So, you're the one who is responsible now. You caused this, so you have to do something to figure it out and make my dark feelings go away so the game can continue to be played."

"But, you can't 'tag' me back. Because, remember, the cardinal rule of the game. It's not my fault. It's now YOURS because you're IT."

I ask you: What would the world be like, what would each of our worlds, namely, the internal ones be like were each of us individually, solely, and unilaterally, to take responsibility for what we are feeling inside?

What would our days be like were we to accept complete and unconditional and total responsibility for what we are feeling inside as the crazy world revolves around our constrained emotional hearts and overly sensitive feelings?

What would each of us be like tomorrow and every day thereafter and in-between, were each of us to take full and total ownership of what we were experiencing inside?

The world happens.

Things happen.

And, yet, what if we were to take responsibility for our reaction to what happens?

Think about that.

What would happen were we to take 100 percent responsibility and total ownership for our reactions to what happens to us in Life?

Well, for starters, we would not place blame on someone, something, some entity outside of us. Rather, we'd know it's our reaction to the action that is at hand. It's our reaction to what is happening outside of us that is the rub.

It's OUR response to that event. It's OUR reaction to what we are telling ourselves about that occurrence, or that injustice, or that happening that is unfair.

It's totally OUR job to take ownership and full claiming of what we are feeling inside. Not them. Not they. Not those others. Not that. Not this.

Me.

You.

Us.

Individually.

Internally.

Fully.

Completely.

Unconditionally.

Think about that. What would your day be like were you to have to own what happens inside of you? What kind of work would you have to do if you were no longer allowed to point the finger at anything outside of you as an excuse or explanation for what is happening inside of you?

Wouldn't that be an uncomfortable situation to be in, eh?

Think of what you'd be forced to do with that energy build up inside.

Either you'd implode, or you'd be forced to deal with it in some way that would allow you to constructively and positively express the inner stirrings you are owning.

You would take responsibility for what you feel. You'd feel. Period.

You'd own what your reaction is.

You'd be able to see your part in what your reaction is in response to what the action that occurred outside of you was.

Your world would become brighter. You know why?

Because you'd finally know, one day, that because you are responsible for your reactions to Life, and no one else, that you actually have the power to create the world you have always wanted.

A world free of inner conflict, and strife, and blaming, and threatening, and hurting.

You'd be creating a world inside of you that is able to respond to the many, many events of Life that are right now perceived and unpalatable, unacceptable, and unwanted, and you'd be able to go through them without the prior response and struggle that you've heretofore accepted as the only 'response' to Life.

You'd be in a brighter place. You'd be lighter in your living with Life. You'd be the person who can really, solely, individually, and powerfully make a difference in your small world surrounding you.

And, that would make you the kind of person who is able to read something like this article and understand that there is another world out there, inside of you.

Do yourself a favor. Read this article again.

And again. And, one more time.

You'll be encouraged not only by what you read, but by what you feel inside.

You see, I've written these words, but the truthful resonance of these words INSIDE OF YOU, belongs to Truth, which is wonderfully available to us all if we're willing to do the work to allow it to speak to us, individually and internally, when these reactions to Life come up.

That's where and when the work starts. But, oh, what a lifetime reward undertaking that work continues to provide.

So, are you willing to roll up your sleeves and get to work?

Written by Andre Best
President, Ultimate Results, Inc.
http://www.andrebest.com
'Learn About Life From Another Perspective'

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