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Found: The Purpose of Living
September 9, 2006 by Andre Best
If you're one of the few people wondering if there's a purpose to your existence, I'm venturing to add to my continuing series of articles on this topic of a life's purpose that it's not a matter of what IF there's no purpose to life, instead, I purport the concept that there is NO purpose to life.
So just how did I come across this seemingly bleak statement? Well, for starters I've recently come to the personal conclusion that I've only been hanging onto the thought and the hope and the belief that there is a purpose to existence.
And joined to this thinking is the thought that I have been one of the unfortunate one's who has yet to stumble upon, or even trip over, my life's purpose along my personal life's journey.
I guess at times I even entertained the thought that perhaps there was a sadistic spiritual joke being played upon the human called 'Andre Best'.
Regardless of all this background and personal insight and posing of funky bleak questions, I still find it kind of troubling to think that there is no real purpose to life and no divine intention that we're all supposed to fulfill before they're shoveling dirt in our face.
For so many years I had focussed on and worked towards and kept myself moving towards the belief, the hope, that there truly was a genuine purpose that I personally had to be working towards.
This was, in a sense, giving my life meaning and something to work towards. But I guess in my case it became not so much a task towards an end but rather an obsession. And the more I worked towards defining my purpose, or so I thought, the more frustrated I became.
You see, a defining purpose is ultimately what we're all seeking, that is, the seekers in life who are seeking. We want there to be an answer. We want there to be a solution to every problem that comes across our Life desk. And we don't like the unknown so when there is an area of our life that is unknown it is especially important to fill that hole. With something.
And if the actual answer can't be found to fill the hole with then the substitute will suffice.
In my case that substitute was the search for an answer.
Viktor Frankl states in 'Man's Search for Meaning' that if a person is given a 'why' then they will find a 'how'. What this means is that if a person is given a reason to live, a defining purpose, then that is enough to get them through the times in their life that are especially difficult when they don't know 'how' they're going to get through that time. But finding a 'why' is enough to give them the strength to find the 'how' to carry them forward beyond the darkness of that moment in time.
Along my path, my 'why' was to find a purpose to my existence and even though the 'how' to address that 'why' was to pursue many avenues focusing on inner development and personal growth the 'how' still wasn't enough to satiate this inner drive towards the so-called answer I was pursuing.
Why? Because the 'why' became a problem, in my case. That is, the 'why' for me became the goal to pursue.
Specifically, I expected to find out why I was placed here on this plane and once discovered, everything would be taken care of for me. But, unfortunately, things weren't to be that simple.
I've realized that because I couldn't figure out my defining 'why' I became focussed on the pursuit of the 'why' and that didn't allow me to take advantage of any 'how's' that may have found their way across my path.
Let me state this another way...
Because I pursued my own personal 'why' but I couldn't find it I glommed onto the process of finding that 'why'. But the only thing I didn't do was to actually find out my own personal why. More on that in a bit.
I guess that I'm like many people on this life quest for answers. Instead of finding the answer that I expect to exist I became focussed on the search.
The quest.
The process.
The expectation.
And in the end, somewhere along the way, I had forgotten that perhaps - just perhaps - there is no 'why'.
But all along I had become so identified with the 'pursuit' of my own why that it never even occurred to me that maybe there isn't any end answer to the long quest(ion).
Think about it, outside of a religious perspective why does there have to be a reason for each of us existing on this plane for the short few decades (if we're so lucky) that we happen to be physical creatures?
Some would say it is to come to a sense of completion in this or that aspect of our life individually or with another one or many people, this time around. Others would say that perhaps our existence is so that we can learn to become spiritual creatures to the best of our human abilities.
And even some would say our existence is to become perfect human beings.
But, outside of all these human-driven explanations perhaps one should also consider on a very deep internal level that just maybe there is no purpose to our individual existence.
Now, before some of you think 'Whoa, back that spiritual truck up dude!' let me shed some light on the seemingly dark statement I just placed in your e-lap.
Ponder the remote possibility that there is no ultimate reason for a person's existence.
No becoming a boss of a Fortune 100 company.
No becoming a holy saint and helping the poor, unfortunate, and downtrodden.
Even no becoming the best parent to your kids and shoulder to cry on for your family and friends. None of that.
Now, I'm not espousing that any of those intents are bad, or wrong, or unnecessary in this world. We all know otherwise in many ways that they are needed.
What I'm getting at is that perhaps we are just meant to be born, go through our personal allotment of roughly 25,000 days day by day by day, and then go back into the abyss that we came from.
Now, does that have to be such a bad thing to consider and perhaps even accept? Maybe for some. But for others, like me, it is something that is giving me relief that there just might not be a 'higher purpose' why I personally was placed vertically on this planet for this period of time.
And there's nothing wrong with that. In fact there's everything good with that potentiality.
Unloading that type of mental burden is beginning to show me that there is another way to exist on this plane.
That is, in the moment. With the moment.
It's freeing up the space in my mind that heretofore was focussed with incredible precision on the 'quest'. And while this was going on, the present moment was passing by to my obliviousness.
That's not good. Why? Well, with all that going on, how can one be present to the moment-by-moment life we all live?
How can one be present to what is happening in the now, internally and externally, when one is thinking about the potential future discovery of the 'why'?
How can one be in relation to the world and others in it when one is absent even to themselves mentally with a preoccupation of discovering this elusive answer to this non-necessary question posited?
Again, by focusing on the 'why' the present moment is missed. Over and over and over.
And by letting go of the 'why' free and easy, the thinking about 'why' is dissipated and room is made for 'now', free of thoughts.
Acceptance.
Resolution.
Possibility.
Right now, where I'm at, this insight I've recently come to is very intriguing to say the least. And how impacting is it appearing to be?
That's easy to answer. It's already coagulated enough in my gray matter that I'm able to share it with you.
So, tell me... how impacting is it for you?
Written by Andre Best
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Posted by Andre Best at September 9, 2006 6:29 AM
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Very interesting article! Recently I've come to thinking that the purpose of my life is to accept that my life has no special purpose, and that I can go on living it just as happily, in spite of it all. After all, in the long run what difference does it make?
Or, maybe we make our own purpose as we go along? Like so many other things in life.
(Plus, as you know, I have a cat, and the purpose of my life is therefore clearly cut out for me: to wait on him hand-and-paw. That's why they keep us around, you know!)
Posted by: Miko at September 10, 2006 7:12 AM
Miko,
I would agree with you that perhaps we make up our purpose's as we go along through our days.
Who wouldn't agree that humans are 'meaning-making-machines' and if there is a moment in our life that doesn't have 'meaning' then we are sure to find one or make an apropos one up for the moment.
And yes, cats do give us a sense of purpose with their aloofness and yet their need for our input into providing for them overall. Good for you for having that in your life on a daily basis.
Andre
Posted by: Andre at September 10, 2006 4:21 PM
Noooo, I'm a slave to that puss! Nobody knows the trouble I've seen! Oh well, takes my mind off my other troubles, I suppose. Distraction is a good thing sometimes.
About this business of living moment to moment or "in the now" as they say: I wonder how it is possible for me? I mean, academically I can understand how it works - after all, at this point in time, the past is behind us and the future doesn't exist yet, so really all we have is the present moment anyway. But my mind is always ticking away, worrying about this and contemplating that, it just won't stop and let me enjoy life ...
Posted by: Miko at September 10, 2006 5:35 PM
Miko,
You pose the question of the ages... how to be 'present' to the moment. Yes, the mind is unrelenting in its continuing goal to keep us chasing the image of a future to come or a past to run away from or reminisce about.
But what I've found over the years that has helped me 'slay the beast', at times, is to become aware that this nature in every one of us, this darkness - so to speak - thrives in us because we have yet to learn how to properly quell the voices it makes us hear.
I've found that even though the mind is 'always ticking away' (as you put it) one can still be present to the ticking AS one is in the moment. Even though the ticking is there the enjoyment of life is possible, with the ticking going on.
We're NEVER going to be able to dismiss the ticking and silence the 'ticker', at least until the end of each of us. But we can do our best to become aware of the ticker and the trick it is playing on us while we are awake.
Not an easy task, to be sure. But I've proven to myself that it is do-able. Persistence is key.
I hope this answers more than it causes questions. :-)
Andre
Posted by: Andre at September 10, 2006 9:32 PM
Persistence is key, I like that. More and more I'm coming to discover that the trick to having a good life is simply forming (and sticking to!) good habits, both mental and physical.
I think my environment has a lot to do with it, too. It's soooo hard to switch off in a Japanese city, because these cities never sleep! Always something going on ... it's crazy, sometimes.
Is Phoenix a big city?
Posted by: Miko at September 10, 2006 11:11 PM
Miko,
Metropolitan Phoenix is about 3 million people. Not small by any means.
But as far as switching off in a city, the rush hour city traffic inside this noggin of mine is what brings me the most trouble when I can't switch it off. ;-)
Andre
Posted by: Andre at September 11, 2006 7:31 AM
Wow, Phoenix is big all right! I live in a city called Kobe in western Japan, it's not so big in itself, but it's part of an urban conglomeration of roughly 27 million people, which makes it a pretty busy - and fascinating - place. About 10 years ago Kobe was flattened by a massive earthquake, and the reconstruction plan was called "Phoenix Kobe," which is why I'm so interested in the phoenix as a symbol of resurrection.
How strange that this country that invented Zen produces so many restless and dissatisfied people!
Posted by: Miko at September 12, 2006 6:31 AM
Miko,
"How strange that this country that invented Zen produces so many restless and dissatisfied people!"
Give me your insights on this comment, if you would be so kind. I think it would add to the discussion topic of the article.
Andre
Posted by: Andre at September 12, 2006 8:43 PM
Well Andre, I'm not sure I completely understand what we are discussing, but I'd be happy if you presented a few leading questions first!
In the meantime, here are my thoughts. I think to a certain extent that the average Japanese person's "purpose" in life is tightly bound with societal and family expectations. Most people here live a life that has been plotted out for them from birth, and it rarely deviates from a very narrow spectrum. College, career, marriage, parenthood, years of drudgery as a homemaker/corporate drone, retirement, etc. (Sound familiar?) People here are taught from infancy onwards to accept their fate with Zen-like fatalism. This way of life, which sounds like hell to me, is generally regarded as the path to happiness.
And yet to a remarkable extent, many people do manage to live happy - if somewhat restricted - lives within that framework. But some people are not happy with the idea that life is mapped out for them like that, they want more than that, they want freedom. Those are the people who either leave Japan and never look back, or if they can't do that ... well, sadly there's a reason this country has a such a high suicide rate.
Many Japanese people admire the North American lifestyle, and wish they could live in the same way. (I'm not one of them, however!)
Posted by: Miko at September 13, 2006 3:51 AM
Miko,
It's interesting to read your last comments about how the culture in Japan is structured. But as you said, the North American lifestyle is not always something to be desired either.
Yes, here too there exists the ubiquitous goal to achieve 'freedom' however it may be defined. All too often that freedom is interpreted to mean financial freedom and that becomes the cause, the purpose, for one's existence. At least until, if and when, that person finds out that money truly can't buy happiness, only comfort. For the most part.
I find it interesting that the struggles to find 'purpose' in life are something that humans around the globe struggle with at times throughout their days on Earth. Even if the struggles are different, they are struggles nonetheless.
Thanks for contributing to this discussion and adding the insights from your home country of Japan.
Andre
Posted by: Andre at September 13, 2006 7:15 PM
Hi Andre,
I read your article published in Sunday Times. This question about searching meaning of life, has been with me since i was a child. I always want to know, why am i born, who am i, why do we come on this earth, why do we get this physical form, if we are physically hurt and if it pains, we forget about all this and concentrate on ways to reduce that pain.
There is no purpose to life, there is no life, just the things happen as they go on happening. It is not in anybody's to be born on a date or to a chosen parent, death is in nobodys hand, earthquakes cannot be controlled, in this huge universe, what is the size of one human physically.
It is like "to be or not to be"
or
"there is everything, there is nothing"
"two sides of a coin"
"stars expand and than they become black holes"
We are born and than after death there no value to this physical form.
There are some stars, whose light take years and years to reach this earth, while we think that in complete age of ours we can change the world.
What happens, will happen.
Every body is on her / his own fate.
Posted by: Rajesh at September 24, 2006 1:59 AM
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