It all seems pretty simple at first glance. Yet, when detailed, it's pretty interesting how all this comes about and what can happen, or not, as a result of one not being in a position of wanting to decide the outcome of a situation.

Deciding is easy. Wanting to decide is hard. Wanting to make a decision about something is something that usually is instilled with its partner: fear. Making a decision is something that we do all day long. But, when it comes times to decide about what we need to decide about, we then have to determine if we even want to make that decision in the first place. And, we know that if we're not ready to do so, resistance to making a decision comes up. Resistance in the form of excuses. Or resistance in the form of fear.

Either way, they end up with the same outcome: the decision that needs to be made is made, or in this case is not made because the fear or resistance is focused on instead of what needs to be acted upon in the first place.

I know full-hand what it's like to act from a place of fear. It makes one virtually incapable of making a decision because one does not appear to know what one wants. But, I've learned that one has to first determine if one even WANTS to decide to figure out what is needing to be decided.

I remember what someone told me when I was pursing a home based business back in the 90s. It involved selling vitamins to others, and these were quality vitamins that I had been taking for some time so I knew firsthand that they were good for the body. Anyway, at that time someone once asked me "Everyone may need these vitamins, but how many people want them?"

That blew the door of my mindset wide open and made me realize that I was promoting something that nobody wanted. Or at least didn't want the particular ones that I was trying to pawn and peddle to them. They all needed them, as I knew that we don't get enough vitamins from the foods we intake, yet nobody wanted them because they themselves didn't see a particular need for them.

During that time, another person made a statement during a telephonic training call I was participating in that also changed what I was perceiving as an easy sell. That person, a woman successful in the business, said two words that again showed me what I was dealing with and how the fact that I was sold on the efficacy and need for these vitamins, others weren't so, and my being sold on the vitamins wasn't enough to make a sale to other. She said that people "Gotta Wanna."

Gotta wanna what? Well, gotta wanna do the business and make the sales. Gotta wanna buy the vitamins. Gotta wanna see the need for the vitamins. Gotta wanna go out there and make me see that they gotta wanna.

So, getting out of the salesmanship mindset that I'm recalling, how does this apply to you and your life and a particular insight that could be of use to you? Well, it's again pretty easy to see that no matter what one does, it ain't gonna happen until the gotta wanna is there inside whomever has got to want to do what one is needing to do.

I've come across situations that involved knowing that something that could easily and certainly benefit a person and was something that they should have in their life was not going to occur simply because they didn't want it. They knew it was good for them. They knew it was something that they needed to do or undertake, or change, yet they were in a place of inaction and indecision simply because the wanting to make that particular change or undertaking wasn't in place, first.

Remember, want first, decide or do or do not second.

We all know when something is something that we should be doing. We do. We just come up with excuses and reasons for not doing it. That's okay. It really is.

All one has to know and work towards seeing is that they are probably in a position of not actually wanting what is presented to them. That's okay too. It's not a bad thing to not want something.

But clarity about the situation is what is key. Knowing that the wanting isn't there is what is needed because then the actual need isn't clouded over with an excuse for not doing what needs to be done. One may be in complete and absolute agreement that something needs to be done, a decision needs to be made, the reasons are all set and meaningful, and then.....nothing.

What comes up after that? Excuses for not acting.

Stop.

See that everything is set in place, everything may actually turn out to be something that is completely beneficial and productive and positively impacting, but, you just don't want it. Yet.

See that you don't want it. Not that what is there in front of you is something that isn't what should be there, or isn't right for you, right now.

Just see that you don't want to decide. You don't want to try. You don't want, period.

There's nothing wrong with not wanting something. It's merely telling one that the wanting isn't there at this point in time. It may never be there, and that's okay too.

But, to have angst and grief over something that one knows one should do, but isn't truly ready for because one doesn't want it isn't something that one should berate oneself for. It's simply a matter of whatever is present now isn't wanted. Simple as that.

Seeing the subtle difference between indecision and not wanting to decide is something that can be changing and allow one to actually lighten up on oneself so that one day that wanting may actually be there, when one is ready. The circumstances could very well be the same, only the timing may have changed, and then one see that one actually wants what is present or needs to be decided.

Then one might even ask "How could I have not wanted this before?"

That's the funny thing about the Universe. Staying open to the possibility of what is and knowing that what is may not be what one presently wants can allow the door to stay open to the wanting someday being present with the wanted. In a way the wanting becomes the seed of the action. If that seed isn't allowed to grow at it's own rate it can't germinate and blossom into the beautiful impetus it's meant to be, even if that actually turns out knowing that one shouldn't decide to do something.

But, at least it was allowed to be planted, and then grow, invisibly, before the actual use for it is evident.

Going through life can be pretty clear when one has the wherewithal to ask oneself if one wants what is being presented. Knowing the answer to that asking allows one to have clarity what is present and what one should do, if anything, about what is present or being presented.

And, remember, regardless of whether the decision actually is about what is or isn't, no matter what....

Wanting what is makes what is wanted.

Written by Andre Best
http://www.andrebest.com
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