Think about the many things that one does in their life that seems to have nothing to do with fear, yet, in actuality have fear as the foundation of the seen action.

I know that we humans all avoid fear by either moving away from feeling it, or moving towards something that we think will allow us to not feel it.

We all live in fear, even at the smallest level of existence. I know I still do.

I have a nicer and newer vehicle that I use to cart my carcass and my kids around in through my days with them. And because this is a nice vehicle that I own outright, I have a fear of someone dinging my doors and chipping the paint on the sides of my vehicle.

So, you might be asking yourself "So what? How does this amount to fear and impacting the existence of this creature currently called Andre Best?" Well, it's easy to see.

Some would say that I'm being a worrier about the door dings. Others would say that I should be concerned only about things that matter in the long run. Others would think me crazy. Perhaps most are in the latter thinking category. But that's okay: I'm right there with them.

Having a fear of door dings makes me take actions to avoid that occurring. Sometimes I drive in parking lots when shopping with the boys so as to find a parking spot that is on the end of a parking lane, so that only one side of my vehicle is vulnerable and exposed.

I've even hung towels between my door handles after parking because I had a dwelling neighbor who dinged my doors a couple of times and I did this to avoid this from occurring again. It helped, in case you're wondering.

I'm sure no malice was meant by their actions. They just probably were forgetful and didn't pay enough attention to the closeness of my vehicle. But, I still have to live with the dings.

I can remember where virtually every one of them came from. Where I was parked. What I was doing. What day of the week it was.

It all matters to me. And yet, it's all part of the dance of fear.

Now, to you, this all seems probably way over the top of reasonable sanity and it's time to move to reading someone else's words. Right? Perhaps you're right. But to me, there is something inside that drives me to take these actions so that I don't have to fear any more door dings.

But, let's take a look at what is truly happening here. What is happening beneath the surface of this surficial activity?

One would think that I'm doing everything I can so as to not have to feel fear anymore, or worry about my expensive vehicle. I'm driving around in parking lots and hanging towels on the car doors to avoid anymore damage to my vehicle's previously dent-free sides. Any proud car owner would do the same. After all, it's my car and I paid a lot of money for it.

No one would blame me for taking defensive actions such as I have to protect my well taken care of vehicle. Right?

Well, now let's dig deeper.

Do you think that I have successfully avoided feeling fear of vehicular door dings? Do you think that I no longer feel fear over getting my car doors dinged?

You know what? Even though I have still taken these preventative actions to not have any more door dings on my car, I still feel fear over door dings.

"Wait!", you say.

"Andre, you have taken defensive actions to not have any more door dings. You're not getting any more door dings. How can you still be feeling fear over door dings?"

Well, I still feel fear over door dings every time I do the actions that I do to avoid getting another door ding. I still fear getting another door ding. Otherwise I wouldn't be driving around parking lots looking for the perfect spot to park in and avoid any more damage to my vehicle.

Okay, I know I may not be being totally clear on this point I'm trying to impart. I'll rephrase.

I have a newer vehicle. I fear damage to said vehicle. I get damage to said vehicle via door dinging. I take defensive action to avoid further damage to said vehicle. I'm still fearing further damage as long as I take defensive actions, with the avoidance of more door dings as the root cause of those actions.

As long as the impetus of my actions of continuing to drive around parking lots and hanging towels on my car is to avoid more door dings, I'm still living in fear of more door dings. I'm still being driven by fear, even though I think I've taken worthwhile actions to no longer feel it. Even though I think the fear is gone from my life in this particular situation.

Fear is still there. It's still driving my actions. It's still making me, literally, drive around to avoid it from occurring in my days in my vehicle. Yet, it's still invisibly there. It's still what is making me do those new actions in the first place to avoid more dings.

I have a fear of door dings and yet I take actions to avoid feeling that fear. I act to avoid fear, yet I still am operating from a place of fear.

What's the solution to this? Well, how about cutting to the chase and just feeling the fear, instead of avoiding feeling it through actions that seem to mask its presence in my days?

How can this insight help you? Well, it's pretty easy.

Think of the many ways in your day - trust me, they're there - that you go about your days doing things and not doing things so as to not feel fear over something that essentially is at the base of what it is that is driving your actions to do or not do things. That base is there. There is always an avoidance or an attraction to something. It's one or the other. Like the old saying goes: avoid pain or pursue pleasure. They're both sides of the same fear coin.

They both have fear as their foundation and root reason for what they manifest in your days.

Fear is a powerful driving force in life. It makes us do so many things that we don't want to do, both to avoid it, and to think were avoiding it. But, many of these things simply don't work. They mask the fear, as I showed you earlier with my door dinging story.

Fear drives people to kill. Fear drives people to get in relationship with others. Fear is the main reason most of us are here on this planet. Fear is killing the planet. Fear makes love. Fear makes war. Fear makes peace. Fear drives society. Fear makes women buy new shoes. Fear makes men seek sex. Fear even makes me write this insight article on my blog.

Fear is powerful beyond belief. It is inculcated in us from a very early age, if not at the moment of existence, through the mere fact that we're a sentient creature on this planet.

So, to sum all of this up, what can you do about fear? Well, in actuality, it's pretty simple.

Don't do anything, with the exception of seeing the fear in your life and how it operates, usually unbeknownst to you, during your days of existence.

You see, that's the power of fear. It's a sneaky, cunning, invisible aspect of our existence that runs at a continuous hum in our lives. Sometimes it turns up the vibrations and we actually feel it. But even when we're not aware of it, it's still driving our actions and it's still there. Living, throbbing, humming away, ready to interject itself in our actions in some fashion.

Do what you do. Do it anyway. Fear is there, and you'll know it when you know it. But, to discover its invisible existence is to expose it in your life. And exposing it in your life reveals it to be there and when that is known it no longer operates unbeknownst to you and silently driving you to pursue actions to avoid it.

Simply seeing the operation of fear when it is present is enough to make it absent. Don't stop feeling fear, just see the fear in your life. It's there. Trust me. It's there.

It's even right here with you, in you, as you read these words. Don't believe me? Well, why are you reading these words? Did you expect to learn anything here? Were you thinking you were lacking something so you thought that perhaps these words would allay that lacking?

See, fear is insidious. It permeates our days and lives and yet we don't have to operate from it.

Feel your fear, and taking the ending title from that infamous book about fear written back in the 80's, and do it anyway.

You see, you're going to continue to do what you're doing anyway. But this time you'll be aware of the entire driving force of your actions, when fear is there as the foundation. That's all that needs to occur. That will bring light into your actions and move the darkness of fear out.

How do I know this? Because I've experienced it for many years now. It happens, fear can be ridded from your days as easily as seeing a beautiful sunrise and becoming aware of how you feel inside.

That's the type of relationship you can have with your feeling of fear. It is a beautiful part of life. But first you have to see the relationship you already have with it.

And, as you personally probably already know: once something is seen, truly seen, nothing is ever the same again. Right?

Okay, now on to the last important matter at hand. Anybody know a good door ding automobile repair shop in Phoenix, Arizona?

Written by Andre Best
President, Ultimate Results, Inc.
http://www.andrebest.com
'Learn About Life From Another Perspective'

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